No, and the fact that you are asking is already a difference between you and the pattern you grew up with.
Here is the part that promises cannot touch. By the time you are shouting, the decision has already been made somewhere below the level you can reason with. That is why resolving to stop does not work: you are addressing a stage that has already passed. The workable intervention sits earlier, in the minutes before, which is almost always a state rather than an event. Tiredness, an unfinished argument, money, a day that went badly.
So the first piece of work is usually unglamorous: mapping what reliably comes before. Most people find two or three conditions that account for the majority of incidents. Those are changeable in a way that willpower is not.
The second piece is the repair afterwards, which matters more for children than people think. Not the absence of anger, but what happens next.
This is workable. It does not need you to become a different person.
This is general information in reply to a public question, not advice about your own situation, and it does not create a client relationship. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.
