Shadi se pehle ye sawal poochna hi achhi nishani hai. Jo shakhs apne ghusse ke baare mein pehle se soch raha ho, wo aksar us se behtar sambhalta hai jo ye maan kar chalta hai ke sab khud theek ho jayega.
Pehle ye samajh lein ke ghussa aksar ek halat se aata hai, waqiye se nahi. Thakan, bhook, paison ki fikr, kaam ka pressure, ya koi purani baat jo dil mein reh gayi. Shadi ke pehle saal mein ye sab barh jaate hain: naya ghar, dono families ki tawaqqoat, kharche. Is liye ab se dekhna shuru karein ke aap ko kin halaat mein zyada ghussa aata hai. Aksar do teen wajahein milti hain jo zyada tar waqiat ke peeche hoti hain.
Doosra, abhi se apni hone wali biwi ke saath ek tareeqa tay kar lein. Jab aap mehsoos karein ke ghussa barh raha hai, to ek jumla: "Main abhi ghusse mein hoon, main thori der mein wapas aa kar baat karta hoon." Phir kamre se bahar jayein, walk karein, wuzu kar lein, aur waqai wapas aa kar baat karein. Ye waqfa jhagre ko khatam nahi karta, sirf nuqsan ko rokta hai.
Teesra, love marriage mein aksar ye umeed hoti hai ke ek doosre ko pehle se samajhte hain. Lekin saath rehna naye masail laata hai. Pehle se baat kar lein ke ikhtilaf kaise hal karenge, aur families ki baat kaun kis se karega.
Agar pehle kabhi ghusse mein kuch toda, kisi ko dhakka diya ya aisa kuch kaha jis par baad mein bohat pachtawa hua, to shadi se pehle hi kisi se baat karna samajhdari hai. Premarital counseling isi liye hoti hai, aur anger management bhi seekhi ja sakti hai.
Allah aap dono ki shadi mein barkat de.
This is general information in reply to a public question, not advice about your own situation, and it does not create a client relationship. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.
